When reading through Judith Butler’s Gender Trouble, a question about which role that each parent gets to take over caught my eye: who is the dad and who is the mom? Or, more specifically, “When and why, for instance, do some butch lesbians who become parents become “dads” and others become “moms?”(Butler 9). When in a family, it is normally expected that there must be a mother and a father. Mothers are the nurturers, while the fathers are the providers and protectors, or so it’s been expected. With two of the same gender, who gets to be who? Are both partners caring or are they more intense? How are these traditional roles within each household decided? Or is there a difference between both partners? Who knows? That is what I got out of Butler’s question.
The role of “dads” and “moms” in a homosexual family.
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I think your point is interesting. The LGBTQ+ community is something that really is not talked about in general therefore people come to their on conclusions and assume that there has to be a set way of who is the typical “mother figure” and who is the typical “father figure” when it honestly shouldn’t matter. My question is why do people care what goes on in someone else household that really does not concern them? Why does it matter what “role” each partner has? I also think that it should completely up to the couple. One partner shouldn’t have to be one “role”, my parents are straight and neither of them hold one “role”. Both of my parents are sensitive and both of my parents provide for our family, so why should a homosexual couple have to conform to any roles either. The point you brought up is something that I had thought about too when reading this and I am glad that you made a post about it so I could discuss it further.